I'm pretty sure I have been labeled the abuser in my r, he did call me craze, overly emotional, nasty. Yes in a way I did ask for needs to be met but any needs I had and asked for there was always a no fault reason why I was selfish even needing it. A justifcation.
He threatened my s17, and hit him, called me heaps of abusive names and gas lighted, yet I was crazee. As other said he did it because I allowed it and by forcing me to try to stand up he could make me look crazier. Me by trying to set boundaries of saying you don't stop absuing it's finished made me the bad guy and meant he could hand on heart say he was the good guy. It was that no win dance, to which like v's h he is still justifying why h was right in h abuse of s17.
We learn to leave those patterns of behaviour behind, thus changing things in the future. Giving us a better outcome, there are no good guys or bad guys, just humans.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
