...and another WAS

[Pyrite]

Any - NO
Some - Yes

which MUST change. 2 biggest problems. 1. she left 2. she neglected me and our R. although i think we are regaining time with the kids growing up. scheduling can be redone and R would correct itself largely. still, work is needed to guide it. "was" i should say. if we had've got on to this 6 months ago. Now, things are bad, real bad. She hates me, she screams she will never say sorry, she is 100% victim, she never wants to even try reconciliation.

I fear she is not going to calm down and backtrack. she is going to calm down, live with the OM, resolute that life w me was crap, and new life is great.

There are somethings which honestly I could claim them to be problems now, but necessary to change as a condition, probably not. Really they are character traits (no one is perfect) that were always "undesirable". When the R was in bad shape, all of the good things that made these minuscule in comparison were no longer there. e.g.The cooking, cleaning etc. I dont minding more than half, close to all maybe, but if she could help, and mindfully NOT make more work that would be excellent.