...and another WAS

[Pyrite]

As the LBS, we all have a tendency to focus on what the WAS did wrong and shine a light on all their faults. That doesn't help you. You can't change them.

I accept this totally. I am not really focused on what the WAS did wrong in the M. These can be worked on. My problems can be worked on. There were lifestyle issues/schedules etc which can be worked on and I think "fixed" easily enough. The biggest problem is that she "maybe" doesn't love me anymore, another thing I absolutely cant change. The only problem I am really focused on that the WAS did wrong in the M, was leave it the way she did, without trying together at all.

Through your actions your W will see your changes and be intrigued.

I don't see how. But maybe that is short-sighted. In 6 months time things will likely be different.
The family house will be sold by then though. we will haveour own places, etc .