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[Joe46]

Wonka, Thank You for responding. I will answer your questions over here on this new thread so the other one does not get locked.

"Joe,

A couple of questions here for you to consider:

1. Family intervention for what purpose? Who are the family members in your head for this so-called 'intervention'?

2. Can you please explain what prompted you to feel the need to write a letter to W?

3. How long have you been DBing?"

Family intervention to hopefully get W to see how her behavior ( job, internet addiction, lying, workaholic) is affecting our family, family safety and marriage. Family members would be older sons and older D. Older D is already involved. The intervention was brought up one here once and a friend of mine also.

What prompted me to possibly write a letter to W, is before V even said anything, I have thought she is having some kind of affair. Her job to me is a form of infidelity. I have been actual DBing for about 2 months now. I have been dealing with this behavior from W for 9 months. I feel I deserve to be happy. I feel like I have no idea how I can ever trust W again. I feel like it is time to move on. I feel like there is no way W will ever want to reconcile and would never go to MC or IC.

I also have a feeling W is getting ready to visit her possible A partner in May when she goes to see her family. She has lied to me before about having to go help her dad. I don't want to be with a cheater. Technically we are separated right now even though we still live together. When she left her first husband, she told me that she started messing around when she got back home. She figured she was done so she thought she would do what she wanted. If she plans to do the same thing, I am done.