Hi Peter. Let me firstly say I could be getting everything wrong here. I am not an expert at all.

Take a look at what others are saying though. Your W is having an affair(?) and you tell her you love her. How do you think she sees that since she knows you know? I would imagine she sees it as she can do whatever she likes and you will still love her. It makes you look weak and unattractive in her eyes. Now, it's fine to still love your wife of course but I wouldn't be saying it at all from now on until you reach the point where she says she is willing to work on the marriage. Saying I don't know etc seems to be a way of dragging things out whilst she cake eats/lines her ducks up in a row. Again, I would step back, do some 180s, cut off financial support for her.

I've heard this many times myself recently - are you trying to win an argument with your wife or are you trying to save your marriage?

Last edited by alpha99; 04/02/15 10:06 PM.
BD - 30TH JAN 2015
S - 30TH JAN 2015
PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014)
CONTINUAL TALK OF D
ME: 31
W: 28
T: 10yrs
M: 4.5yrs
D:5, S:6