I feel like I'm wasting my time. Logically, I know I'm not, but emotionally, it is so hard to just go on with me and not talk R with my husband. We haven't had any R talk for almost two months now.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
I really feel for you. I know exactly how you feel. h is constantly out so I'm by myself with baby, plus when he is actually around- he doesn't really have time or patience for baby. With regards to an OW, I would listen to your gut and brace yourself just incase. My h has always said how married men- especially fathers who have a's make him sick. He has become the man he detests who I never thought he would be. It's hard, it really is. But you're doing good. Keep up with the GALing and do whatever it takes to put a smile on your face. It sounds like your H is a bit jelous of the attention your s gets from you. Might not be the catalyst but in my sitch that seems to have been.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
I know, Cherry! When I read the post from Toots on your thread I thought that I should look into that too. My H hates his father because he left his family, and yet now he's saying he's going to do it. Of course, he says it will be different. I feel like taping him and letting him hear himself sometimes. I do think my H could be jealous about my S. We were together 20 years before he was born. I know I have a rough time adjusting to living with a small one around some days.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Oh, and I've been told that it's okay to vent on here, so here goes. My S has been sick with the flu for six days now. It's obvious that he can't go into school tomorrow, so I changed my schedule around so I can stay home. My H stayed home with him last Friday and yesterday, so I thought I was being considerate.
Well, I've now heard five times tonight that he could have stayed home with our S so I could go to work. He is always complaining about taking time off from work, including yesterday, so I thought I wouldn't need to contact him. I tried to validate and just said that it sounds like he wanted to spend the day home with his son. I was told that it wasn't that, but that it would have been nice for me to get out of the house. I said "Thank you for thinking of me." and then I STFU.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
I'm getting stronger through this process and am not so out of control anymore with grief, but his inconsistency is still one of the hardest things to deal with. I just try to remember to believe nothing that he says and only 50% of what he does.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
I'm getting stronger through this process and am not so out of control anymore with grief, but his inconsistency is still one of the hardest things to deal with. I just try to remember to believe nothing that he says and only 50% of what he does.
The more you take your focus off of him the stronger you will get!
It does Cadet, it does! For the most part, every day I'm feeling stronger and more of an individual again. Still worry about how I can get to piecing if we never talk about R though.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
I'm trying to avoid R talks, mine tries to bring it up all the time only to tell me the same thing every time that he wants the D.. Us to be great friends, live together blah blah. You sound like you are doing great. Keep up the positivity and keeping busy. And that's good advise, I should remind myself that fact too.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
