Edz, it's good to look back and see how far you have come.....a long way from delusional puppy I'm sure. I must have a read through my own sitch one of these days. I'm sure that my panic filled early posts will be a bit of an eye opener now.

Wine tasting sounds nice. H and I used to do that sometimes together. Do you have a local wine merchant that organises events at all? We used to have one and you paid �10 for a talk from the wine grower, then tried the wines. I really enjoyed them.

I agree with Jim that your sitch is already a success story, however things turn out with you and your W. Building a better R with your S and improving your own mental health are big wins already. It's worth remembering that if you feel frustrated about progress with W. And I think you are right - whilst none of us would have wished for the pain of BD - in the longer term, we may well be happier as a result. Either our M's will be on a better path, or we'll move forward happily alone and meet someone else in good time.

Sounds like you're in a pretty good place Edz, and I'm pleased to see less focus/frustration in respect of your W too. Hope you and S have a good weekend!

T x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus