Confused & mix messages part 2

[Sotto]

Hi Cherry, sounds like you are generally doing well, and getting to grips with what DBing involves. You certainly sound more confident that a few weeks ago. That's one of the joys of DBing - it does give you back some control and self-respect in a horrible situation.

I think in terms of your last line. It's great for you to re-find your own attractiveness after having a baby. Good to reclaim and celebrate that part of yourself. Of course, H will notice, and it's good that you are a 'woman' as well as 'mommy.' But I would not make re-attracting him central to that process, do it because it's good for you. And it builds your own self-esteem and confidence.

And in terms of H, you may want to show a bit of sassiness and confidence...a bit more of the 'old' you.

It's just a thought - but I know that parenting for the first time can be a challenging time in M's. Some men worry about the new responsibility and are they ready. And then there's a big shift in dynamic due to the arrival of baby. And suddenly Dad isn't the centre of W's world any more...

I just wondered whether you had done some reading/thinking about this area at all??