Beautiful!! The MIL was a major factor in our M problems. No, let me correct that statement. It was my H's inability or refusal to take a stand in supporting me whenever she threw me under the bus. There was this one time, however, that she thought he would actually choose her over his W (long story), and when she placed him in that situation, he told her he supported his W. She about fainted. She immediately left our house, and as soon as the shock wore off.....I proceeded in seducing him!
Check again, Sandi...are you sure you're not a redhead from Oklahoma? My primary failure as a husband was my inability to stand up to my parents. She lost her attraction to me because she wanted to feel like her man could protect her (she actually said that almost verbatim last night)...a quality I didn't exactly demonstrate very well when it came to them. When they pulled the bathtub incident (I talked about that in detail many threads ago), my inability to present an ultimatum to them...stop the intrusion and bullying or forget about a relationship with us...was the final nail in the coffin to her attraction to me. It's a great example of the damage a "nice guy" mentality can do to someone. I was classic nice guy in that regard.
I have very little relationship with my parents because I think they're bat**** crazy. They told me they were coming to our state in a couple of weeks and tried to arrange for us to come and visit. I told them not just no but hell no and BCC'd my wife. She loved my response
She didn't try to seduce me last night, unfortunately, but all good things in time
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Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
My primary failure as a husband was my inability to stand up to my parents. She lost her attraction to me because she wanted to feel like her man could protect her (she actually said that almost verbatim last night)...a quality I didn't exactly demonstrate very well when it came to them. When they pulled the bathtub incident (I talked about that in detail many threads ago), my inability to present an ultimatum to them...stop the intrusion and bullying or forget about a relationship with us...was the final nail in the coffin to her attraction to me. It's a great example of the damage a "nice guy" mentality can do to someone. I was classic nice guy in that regard.