We basically had it out last night. She had put me down in front of our neighbour and I asked her later not to do that. That opened her up, as well as opening up a can of worms. W got mad and stopped talking. Later she came home.
I asked to see W's phone. She said no. I asked what are you hiding. She said "nothing". Then show me your phone. No, you've invaded my privacy in the past. You started this A Feb 2013. No. I have proof - it was an EA at that point but still an A. You drove me to it. You've been lying to me ever since. There is no trust here. Then why do you still want me? Because I love you - you were a great person. I believe we can fix this. How can we fix this when you screw up all the time. You screw up all the time too - we just need to learn from our mistakes, forgive and grow. [contemplative silence]
She's acting a little more humble today. But I fear that'll be short lived. At least there is some R dialogue. I'm no longer walking on eggshells. Just saying it like it is.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014