Wife Walked Away 10 Weeks Ago

[mahhhty]

GOOD! You let it go. B/C you realize it is no longer worth the time or effort. Her not following up on the commitment is a reflection on her. Honestly, there could be a million valid reasons why. None of which are of any concern to you. You need to focus and ownership of yourself and of your actions and of your Life.

On the LBH Thread, I got into a discussion back and forth with Starsky. I think it may be helpful for you. Greek (W) and Coach (H) were members here who had Divorced and Reconciled. I think every sentence will help me and could help you as well.

What Greek says Coach did to win her back:

I will tell you what Coach did to win me back - after I left our home and filed for D. He stopped doing all the other things that got me to the point of walking out of the door. He stopped trying to arrange my reactions. He stopped trying to control what I would think or do. He stopped telling me how I should feel. He stopped telling me what would happen if... He dropped the rope and said WITH HIS ACTIONS: "Greek, I can see that you are hell bent on leaving for reasons that you have made abundantly clear to me. Some of those reasons have merit and I will deal with them for my own sake. But I can't keep you here and I won't try. The action I will take is to work on areas in my life that have contributed to the difficulties in our R and other R in my life; I will begin to take care of myself in a way I have neglected for some time now (GAL); I will handle protect myself against the legal action you took against our M; I will conduct myself with strength and honor." This was and is totally attractive! It's strong. It's confident. It's respectful - both of me and of Coach.

It's not about 'doing nothing.' It's about doing what works - putting the ACTION in the right place.

Greek

I think it would be great for you to get out more with your friends. Pick up a hobby you always wanted to do but haven't, and to post more on other people's threads. Get involved in this community, and you will receive more attention and perspectives on your situation... hence promoting growth. I say all this b/c of your response previously...

I don't post much, if at all, but I read many other threads. I feel, at this point, I am so confused I don't want to give someone the wrong advice. I love helping others. But, since I'm not doing so well at this, I'm usually not sure what to advise. I guess I can just offer words of encouragement. That never hurts.