I would suggest that being in contact with OMW would be counter productive. Firstly it could push OM and WW together, secondly if OMW walks away then that may not be in your interest, and finally WW may split with OM1 and Seeek OM2.
I would have thought that supporting OMs M was in your best interest especially if there are children. You could end up being the bad guy all round.
Being up front with WW is different though " I do not believe you" or "you and I know differently WW". I think it is up to WW to do as she says "WW until you provide X, Y, Z, until you are an open book then I have no trust in what you say" "at this stage WW I can not trust you as I have not had X Y Z that you promised" "by not giving me X Y Z you give me cause to doubt you. My trust has to be earned after all I know about OM". I can restate this in 100 ways with the same message U.
Recently in my sitch, I faced down POW and her H in a pub, I got glam, slap, sassy dress, boots, hair do and big smile. Said hello , was very charming, calm, kind, sassy, and as brave as could be. POW H reaction to V- "wow, mate, your W is gorgeous, you are lucky". Should have seen the look on H face at the time! POW knows that if I wanted that I could intimate to her H that H took her to my Brighton flat. It is enough for me to see the worry on the fishwives face whenever she sees me. H , I am unfraid to tackle this head on. Can I see your phone then? email? FaceTime account? No? Then there is an A, and I will maintain that belief until you are open and honest with me your W.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 04/02/1503:58 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
