Guide for LBH who has a Wayward Wife

[Sherman333]

Just to add clarity in my situation... my wife attacks the person (she can get quite foul) and not the behaviors. She's borderline personality disorder (maybe bipolar too) and it's been extremely difficult to deal with in our marriage. She's also threatened my S7's well being to get me to capitulate to her demands. It's even been recorded in my situation.

I'm absolutely not advocating that someone should physically or emotionally abuse another... that's guaranteed disaster. If you look at the real statistics on men in emotionally abusive relationships, it's quite a bit higher than what was listed.

What is being advocated is for the LBH to stand up and realize that he can survive and prosper no matter what. That he doesn't NEED his wife. But would prefer the marriage.

From the quote above...

In other words, when you tell your wife that you expect something from her, you have to MEAN IT.

Taken out of the rest of the context of the book, I can see how this looks bad/controlling. You'd have to read the book for the rest of it. Relative to this though, it must be done with love & respect or it's control. Very big difference.