Guide for LBH who has a Wayward Wife

[Vanilla]

I feel quite unwell reading this. Queasy and unnerved.

Please let us look at the statistic on abuse. 1 in 4 women are abused. in some counties that rises to 40%. Whilst some men are abused the percentage is between 3 and 8% and 50% of that is same sex abuse.

To encourage men to be assertive is quite one thing but what is being proposed here is labelling criticising and bullying. I see this as unhelpful.

Having recently been subject to such abuse myself and the only control that I have is how I behave and react then the descriptions given to men to encourage them to control their W are truly awful. Many W are unhappy anyway and this is unlikely to reverse that.

I am very convinced that abuse is about control, inflammation by racking up these so called generalised behaviours and applying them carte Blanche is irresponsible.

IMHO we must never label, blame or criticise W , H or another, it is the behaviour that needs help. The idea that the male in the R is the BOSS is nauseating and repugnant. And no I am not there to do a JOB. Any woman or man subject to this boorish and dominating attitude even in the work place would have my full support to sue for abuse. This is control at it's very worse.

All we should change is ourselves not control another and their supposed Job.


If any W was treated that way then walk away girlfriend. I do not care what you have done, get out of the clutches of such a controlling megalomaniac. And they may appear to be strong words but actually they are very weak and insecure. Bullies are often very insecure.

We all need boundaries and to get stronger but this is truly horrible to read. Have I gone back 100 years in time?

V


Edit - That post has been removed as per writers request