Not dumb anymore (3)

[u-turn]

Ask yourself if you are prepared to enter a new relationship with someone who you absolutely know is willing to cheat on you.

The truth is that the cheater is willing to be unfaithful in the right circumstances and that, to them, any pain this causes you is acceptable collateral damage.

Burger - I think this is a great point and probably the core of the issues that I am having.

We were CERTAIN that the person we married did not have the capability of doing this - turning to another person when the opportunity was there. It was impossible and not even worthy of thinking about.

Then it happened. Was it always in her? Is it always going to be in her? Did I just not know her or did she change into this person? Is it only temporary? Do I want to find out?

There is forgiveness, but that does not change the fact that it could happen again and is that something that we want to see/experience?

I am asking myself all of this right now. Is she a cheater or has she just cheated? Is there a difference?