My wife had an EA with an old friend of 33 years. She contacted him on Facebook about 2 years ago. They would talk on the phone occasionally, but when they did it was for 1-2 hours. Sometimes I was there and she would put him on speaker and the three of us would chat.
He is an airline pilot and was even going to arrange (with passes) for the three of us to go to Europe. It all sounded innocent.
Then, on Feb 28, during a call (he had been drinking and maybe forgot I was on the call) he got very serious and professed his undying love for my wife. She was just coming back in from the other room and says she didn't hear him (the look on her face tells me she did). The call ended, she went to bed, and I sat there pondering.
So, curiosity got the better of me and I snooped into her email and found that on Feb 13 she had sent him topless pictures that I took of her on our honeymoon. One of the pictures (provocative but clothed) had the subject "Things..." I also checked phone records and found that this happened during a 3 hour phone call while I was out of town on business. I even called her during the call and she hurried me off the phone and convinced me to stay another night and get some rest.
I confronted her the next morning. She said it was completely innocent, she shouldn't have done it and his reaction was "I always loved your smile". She said she was not feeling good about herself and maybe just needed someone to appreciate how she used to look.
She also said that what he said on the phone was just the way people from the south talk (he is from the south) and it was completely innocent. I know what I heard.
I told her she had to stop all contact with him. The next day she, again, said it was innocent and did not want to stop contact with him.
Here we are a month later. She has still not admitted anything. She says she has not talked to him, but I suspect she has Facebook chatted with him.
She says she loves me and is not going anywhere. I have to travel for my job and am afraid to leave the house.
I have a DB counselor. We talk. Don't know what to do.