I wanted to do everything to get her back except being part of an open marriage.

Pls let me rephrase my questions.

What other course of action could I have done after she disrespected my boundary?

Cutting off finances doesn't work, because she has her own money.

M 30
W 31
S8 and S6
M 7 T 13
D-Day Mid December 2014
EA/PA confirmed end of December 2014

Help needed:
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