Ganb8te 5 - Escaping the abyss

[Zelda09]

Gan,

Big hugs, I know that took a lot of courage.
You shouldn't have to tiptoe around and sit in your hands forever, hoping.
You will be ok.
There wasn't a magic word or approach that would have changed how that went! It sounds like you are beating yourself up for honesty. It was barely pursuit. Maybe you got him thinking, maybe not, maybe he's lying to himself, maybe he's not. You get to walk away with self respect and integrity. At least you have answers, and they is a gift. It hurts but would you wish agony of wondering another 10 months on yourself instead?

I pray for the sickness you feel to go away and be replaced with a nice glowing lump of self love and thanks, permission to go seek happiness elsewhere. You've done all you could. You gave him a long amount of space. You worked on you, you asked honest questions inside you, and of him. You took responsibility.

Has he? Has he done any of that?

It is not your fault, or a reflection of you or your worth as a partner!

Hugs, it's your world, he can live in it if he chooses. To Jim's point, he's a fool. PS. If you met this cloudy person on a date, would you be impressed?

I am sorry for your grief, truly.