U

Yes it is about "giving it time". It takes time, lots of time.

That is one aspect, it is time to get your self together. It is time to detatch.

Intel is important so that you can make decisions about your sitch. To know and to protect you, not for torturing yourself. It is a sword and shield not a rack.

The question is U, there is some Intel, there is the OM (dbag). You know his name, where he works and his background. Your analysis should tell you how long this may last. I would think that WW and dbag have regular contact at work so hiding in plain site. If it is any consolation at all only 1 in 100 As ever last more than 5 years and only 2 in 75 make it past 2 years. As burn out.

By using your Intel, by facing this down, you bring reality into fantasy. Blowing the gaff makes the A see daylight. This shortens the cycle. Truth is a strong light into dark corners. Horrid though that is. For me, this is empowering. These dbags are pond scum. In essence you can only be trampled on if you let it be that way. What you did or did not do is gone, it is past, you are here and now this can change for you. If you want it too.

U I am so relieved you are Involved in IC and can discuss this. This is so important. Time for U to really take care of himself.

S17 may already have worked out there is an issue. if this is a boundary issue for you then clearly that needs to be said, otherwise S17 is old enough to have responsibility for his R with his mother. Let S17 have his own feelings in this.

U this will be a new day for you if you choose that.

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 04/02/15 12:09 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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