I have let go. I am not pursuing her and accept that our marriage is over. I don't like it and I don't agree with it, but I also realize that I can only control my own actions. Her actions have consistently showed that she is done with our relationship. I accept that reality.
I have detached as best as possible, but I can't say I have done so lovingly. In my mind, I have tried to remain clinical and matter of fact in my communication, but it may also come across as cold and aloof. I have not been mean and do not discuss personal things or her boyfriend/affair with her. The main reason for getting lawyer involved was so I do not have to deal with her personally, as well as protecting myself.
As I have said before, I know that things as they were are over. That doesn't mean that I want to close the door forever. I can not and will not be her friend, even though she has asked me to. Friends do not treat each other with deceit and lies.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
