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I never said he wasn't any good, it was adequate, but too infrequent, maybe 10 times in 16 years of marriage, and too quick. Sex to him was, yes, I really should use past tense here, a hurried, let's not put any effort into it, get it over with thing.
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Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lets get it over with, thats how my H thought/thinks of it. It was like, ok, you climaxed, my job is done. H would just go back to whatever he was doing. Many times I was just getting started and would be like what gives.

BTW my H is not all that good at it. I think the LD thing figures in there somewhere. When he started having problems (problems with getting and maintaining an erection) I went out and got everything I could read on how to perform great BJ's in the hopes that it would bring up his interest in intimacy again. I don't think he has done any of that. I hesitate to say anything to him for fear of him backing off totally again.

Annette