Kramer, to go back to your original post... Don't worry about how she sees letting go. That part is for you. You let go for your own well-being and peace of mind.
Look at it this way... Your old marriage is over. To have a possibility of building a new one, you need to acknowledge the ending too.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15