Being deceived by WAW, in need of some coaching

[skr4luv]

You're right Starsky. I really need to think it through about what my dealbreakers are.

Before this A happened I always told myself, if I catch my W just having a harmless fling with some guy I'd leave her.

It's probably because of the kids, and knowing I can be a better husband to her, plus the mess of going through a divorce somehow makes me able to forgive her things.

I'm still confused. But yes, it should be a dealbreaker.
I'm just thinking ahead. If some months from now, she'll come back begging, will I be able to take her back? I don't know?

Would there have been another way I could have responded last night, without initiating the separation talk?

But what happened happened. From our talk last night my W knows that the fact she's not willing to let go of OM is a dealbreaker for me.
She dumped on it, so be it.