What to do

[Mozza]

1976T - I get the sense that this will be a journey of learning and self-awareness for you. My own WW cheated on me in 2009 and this time left me for a colleague four weeks after she started a new job. I understand what you mean when you say it all happens so fast. But it happens nevertheless.

You really look like someone who would benefit from reading No More Mr. Nice Guy. Perhaps you're already familiar with it?

Also, look deep down why you love your WW so much, despite what she's done to you. In my case, my IC helped me realize that I have a lot of insecurities around women and that this means I believe I need to accept whatever my WW does because I'll never find another one like her. I have detachment and boundaries issues, much like you.

Make sure you read a lot around here because what you're going through is not as unique as it feels. I would recommend the sitches of TenBook, Barry, Closer2 and Fogg at this stage. Look at the success stories at the top of my thread to understand their arc. It takes time and patience.

Finally, please create a signature to let us know about your age, that of your W, children, marriage, etc. It helps a lot to tailor the advice to your sitch. Go to "My stuff", "Edit profile" to create it.