I think actions are the really important thing here. So your W is saying she wants to get some help, which is great. Does she go ahead and find a source of help? Does she commit to that, start digging deep, work through the pain? Stick at it?
These are the things that really show you how committed your W is to dealing with problems in her own life and problems in your R....
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus