If you want me to answer honestly no I have not learned. I have been acting in absolute total desperation. I would not attract myself.
Now of course my excuse is, which is not a good excuse was that there was so much smoke, I wanted to find closure. Which I kind of did. Yes I still would be willing to work on my marriage. But I also now know that I did not cause this D.
I just get confused why someone files for D, constantly tells you that they can date. Then when you pick up the trail in the early stage they deny it.
I can not wait until I start seeing a counselor. I have some issues that I need to work through.
Me: 36 W: 36 D: 14 T: 18 (05/1997) M: 16 (05/1999) BD: 7/23/15 Separation 01/2015 D mentioned and started 02/2015 D filed 3/2015 OM confirmed 3/30/15