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[errod]

Neither, but I just saw them out together about an hour ago. She is totally into him. I think he is only after her for her money. I intercepted an email from him to her and it was only asking questions about her finances and she gave him her social security number.

[errod]

He told me when I confronted her he had no interest in her and he had a 3 year live in girlfriend. I am suspecting that was a lie to get me off his trail.

[Vanilla]

This sounds like a con! A love rat.

Are your bank accounts separate. What are you doing to protect you?

V

[PatientMan]

errod,I am sorry to hear about what you are going through - it's tough, I know.

Failing to plan is planning to fail. So what's your plan?

-PM

[errod]

I am able to control one of our accounts that will give a few months to survive.

My biggest concern is every time I pick up D14 she starts to cry and says she wants to live with me. She hates her mother and all she cares about is talking to or sneaking off with OM. She says she never wants to see her mother again and is afraid of her retaliating.

I have a call into my attorney and hopefully he gets in and calls me soon. I need to get this thing rolling and get W out of our lives.

She will be back because this guy is using her to wipe her out financially and to get a quickie whenever his real girlfriend is out. I think she has done to much damage now.

[errod]

My lawyer recommended me seeing a counselor, so I am making an appointment for that. As far as D14 W called her attorney claiming that she is saying the same thing to her. I don't know what to believe.

At this point I need to take care of myself and make my time with D14 count as much as possible. That way she doesn't blame me and hate me for anything going on.

[errod]

D14 has a track meet tonight. If W tries to sit next to me what should I do? Stay there and talk if she tries? Just excuse myself and move?

I say I am done because I have to be done for my own health. But I still can't honestly say the door is 100% closed on my end.

[MrBond]

"I say I am done because I have to be done for my own health."

Have you gotten stronger through any of this? You shouldn't be "done" because of fear.

If you see your W tonite and don't want to sit by her, then don't. If you want to sit with her, then do. Simple as that.

Be sure that when you talk to your D though, that get her honest feelings. Have you learned anything about how to communicate effectively with your W and D?

[errod]

If you want me to answer honestly no I have not learned. I have been acting in absolute total desperation. I would not attract myself.

Now of course my excuse is, which is not a good excuse was that there was so much smoke, I wanted to find closure. Which I kind of did. Yes I still would be willing to work on my marriage. But I also now know that I did not cause this D.

I just get confused why someone files for D, constantly tells you that they can date. Then when you pick up the trail in the early stage they deny it.

I can not wait until I start seeing a counselor. I have some issues that I need to work through.

[errod]

So I went to the track meet last night and sat with the teams coaches. W gets there about 15 minutes later and sits next to me. I didn't want to move because I was already there with my friends. Then she talked the entire time about work and all the stuff we used to talk about that she hasn't mentioned in months.

At one point she said I am hungry lets go get a snack. That is another thing we haven't done together in months walk around anywhere together. Then it got cold as the night when on and she brought a sleeping bag. She asked me if I wanted to go under it too. Which I declined. Now there was also numerous times through the night that she mentioned our futures not together. At which time I never said a word anytime.

Lastly because D14 had her clothes at my place I was going to swing by and grab her stuff and drop D14 off at W's house. So I texted W when we were on our way. And she texted back great see you soon with a smiley face. I never left the garage. I opened the door for D14 but never went into see the wife.

All of this after calling her attorney the day before about possibly putting a protective order against me.

Very confusing situation. Even though I am still connected and want things to work out, I will be ok either way. I have been GAL. Tonight I have D14 and we are going to watch a track meet with one of her friends, then the friend is sleeping over. Tomorrow night I have plans with friends. Saturday night is D14's cheer banquet where I will have to see W. Sunday is Easter not positive how that is going down in the morning. But D14 and I are going to a friends house that afternoon and evening to enjoy the Holiday.