Trying to Follow DB & DR

[Miman2]

OMG talking with the parents about my situation has been rough lately.

I try to explain how I'm feeling or what I'm doing and their only reply seems to be "uh huh" with nothing else behind it... -.-

It kind of puts the whole validation thing into perspective for me, every time I hear that "uh huh", I cringe and feel like my feelings aren't important or that they even matter to them.

I know they care and they want to help, but they keep brining up things that only start my hurting again.

Like yesterday my mom was bringing up the fact that the W and I don't have kids yet and how "if that's your decision then that's fine by me". She kept bringing it up even though I asked her to stop. Finally I broke down crying telling her to stop and how that topic doesn't even need to be discussed right now because it's not even an option to discuss. She then broke down saying how all she ever says is the wrong things. I had to then take over as the compassionate one in the conversation and try to get on to other topics.

It makes me think they've gotten to the point where they might feel like they don't know what else to say, and only reply with "uh huh". It's frustrating because I feel that I can only get my validation here, in IC, and occasionally a friend will be in the right mindset to validate me.

I feel truly sorry to my W. When she had things she felt like she wanted to talk about, I often replied with the "uh huh" and didn't validate her.