Where to begin?

[Fogg]

I'm not sure how all counselors approach this but during our 2 sessions he said it can always be saved no matter how bad it looks, but doesn't mean it will. He may be trying to get in her head or maybe he really does feel that way. Just be prepared at this point MC for many of us isn't going to do much. If she's said she's done but is going, like my W did, it's possible she is just looking to be able to say she tried later down the road. Doesn't mean that is the case, just don't have expectations for MC now.

Regardless, your still at the very early stages where things look so bad through your eyes and the pain is intolerable, I feel for you, I was there also not long ago. You have a lot of work ahead to do. Not for your M, but for yourself. Also, nothing is ever hopeless. Even if you divorce there's a chance you two will still be together, so try and not think in so many absolutes. Try and follow those rules the best you can and work on getting you to a better place. Keep reading those threads posted.

You fight for her by taking care of yourself and being the strong/rational person. Be the lighthouse.