Aw - thanks you guys for the various comments and hugs. It's much appreciated. I feel a bit tearful and emotional this morning. I certainly don't have positive expectations today. More a sense of waiting for the guillotine to fall.
Toots,
When you get to the point where you actually don't know WHICH way you want this to go . . . when it's almost more problematic if he DOES want back into the marriage . . .
. . . then you will have fully detached. (But then HEADS UP, because that's also when you'll be the most attractive to him!)
Praying for clarity for you two, whichever way this goes.
