Part 17 - Edz, living in interesting times

[edz]

Just to expand on the garage emptying above, was interesting to note w doesn't appear to have fully told s yet that MIL and FIL have invited themselves to stay at the flat indefinitely once their place sells before they relocate to relatives in the north to commence proper house hunting. This is most likely happening in the next week or so.

Considering the stress w and s had staying at MIL before november and the fact that I'm not sure where they'll sleep since w has one room, s the other then there's the lounge (no sofa bed unless its an inflatable) and what was s's room now an office / dumping ground and supposed to be a "den" eventually.

Unfortunately as has always been the case w has just said no problem to her mum and will then (not) deal with the stress as MIL will undoubtedly track her ins and outs what she's doing, watching and where s comes goes and works, concerns me about the pressure on s.

When w raised this after mini golf a few weeks ago now I said well if s wants to come here thats no problem she just replied what signal does that send to her mum, I pointed out (putting it bluntly) I am more concerned about how s will feel about it.

I haven't spoken to s directly as I don't want to undermine w and how she may be thinking about telling him (if she is) but it shows me she still hasn't dealt with her mums control as yet. In very, very last place regarding the sitch no idea if its good or bad, can see it bringing the issue of her choice (in her mind not mine) of her mum or me to the fore (I dont believe for one second MIL would walk away and lose contact with s or the opportunity to interfere or in her eyes gloat and increase control if we didnt make it in reconciling which will undoubtedly be her opinion).

As to where that goes, only w can decide that. I'm watching the issue from my vantage point for s's sake but I'm not having a bite of that pie insofar as her lack of boundaries with her mum or letting mr fixit stick his duck tape covered oar into those waters!