Pink, you are sounding very good and strong. Well done with the financial statement. I started working on mine last week. It is a 28 page form here, so I thought I had better get started. Actually the things that are in my name are relatively straightforward. But it struck me looking at the form that H will have a 3x harder job than me, due to more complex finances in his name. I'm not proud to say that I did feel some satisfaction knowing this.

Sorry that H wasn't in touch on your S's B'day. Things like that just show that he's not thinking straight right now. All self-absorbed, into OW and not wanting to face all of the family commitments right now.

I think you are so right with your decision Pink. The challenge going forwards may be to know when H is just 'talking' or when things are really turning - if they do turn. But I think this is where the action is all important. When he's hugging your knees and saying you are his whole world, that must be very moving - but it is all talk. The actions say otherwise - going away with OW, not calling on S's b'day and so on. When these actions start to consistently change.....then it may be time to take some notice.

But for now, I'm excited for Pink, and all the lovely things that life has in store for this special person and her family xx

ps: is H back now??

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus