"but I can make her want the new and improved me."

Hi Miler, I thought your post above was great - apart from this comment above. No you can't "make her want" an improved you. But it is great to improve yourself for you - and your W may or may not notice and be drawn back towards you.

Equally she may not, and so the improvements are mainly for you - and perhaps a future lucky partner, depending on how things go...

T :-)

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus