"I still see my W as my W and that is perhaps the struggle. I know I am no longer her H in her eyes."

The above resonates with my Rysin. I feel the same, and I'm sure many of us here do. It's hard, and who knows it may change for them. But for us all we can do is keep working on acceptance and moving ourselves forward in a healthy way. Being the person we want to be during this time.

As for the photos. Tricky. I have had this thought too. I actually wouldn't want to have any photos of H on display right now. But I wouldn't want to not take them and find they have been thrown out or something. Maybe you could email your W and say I'll pack up the photos and stuff. If there's anything you want, just let me know...

((Rysin))

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus