Alpha please also think about what true love really means.
I did the same thing than you. I made my W feel guilty for things. Little things..big things. Then she ran away from me for complex reasons. Guess what I did. I argued and made her feel bad about it AGAIN. You do the same thing. Is this helpful? Not a bit. Try to imagine..would you want to be with someone who is sooo much better than you..someone who makes you feel worse? It's against every nature. No matter why our WAS's want to leave, no matter what mistakes they made and for whatever reasons. We are obliged to still give them love. As we have to respect and preserve ourselves in the more extreme cases. But the ONLY true way to reconciliation is respect and love. And love starts within ourselves. We cannot give love when we don't love ourselves and are in peace. You need to work on yourself, become the best you can be, a loving man, father and eventually husband. Get in peace with yourself. Get IC. Meditate. Something. All we hear is W, W, W, OM, OM....
Everything positive coming from within YOURSELF will reflect on the people around you which includes your kids and wife!!
Last edited by Complex; 04/01/1506:13 AM.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15