Your question might be better phrased "Who to ask for a BJ?"
If you stopped offering her LJ (lick job) would she:
a) complain that you are an vengative donkeyhole? b) not notice c) be relieved that she finally can rest from that crotch-sniffing dog of a husband d) non of the above e) all of the above f) realize that maybe you need some attention, too