You're mostly on the right track here. The one thing that jumps out at me is the fact YOU blocked his FB account.

If you force the piecing, it just isn't going to work. It was expressed in the "because it is what you want." comment.

Having good solid intel and installing apps/programs discretely is one thing. You doing her part of the piecing work is completely another.

My advice is if she isn't ready, willing and able to cut ties with OM or honor your requests about OM, you my not actually be piecing yet.

Check PeterV2 and Shodan's threads if you haven't already.

Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3