Quote: But back to the original subject, how would a guy ask for a BJ in a way that is acceptable. Better question yet is WHY should he even have to ask? My wife gets head all the time and NEVER has to ask for it.
I've been pondering this question for a few days and have come up with a few thoughts. First, start off with some compliments and words of appreciation. I'm glad you are my wife, I like being with you, you are great at ..., you smell great, you look wonderful, scrumptious. I value our time together. (stuff like that) Then ask, Right now (or tonight or later or soon) I'd love to have a BJ. Is is something you can do (are up for, can deal with, reasonable)? I'm having a serious craving for that kind of touch. If the answer is yes, you are good to go. If the answer is no or not right now or anything else, ask.. What do you need to be comfortable doing it? What can I do to help get you in the mood? Could you handle a partial, just some sucking? Is there something I can do for you in exchage or is equitable? What stops you from doing it?
All of this needs to be said lovingly without expectation, fear of rejection and personalizing it or cornering her. That it really is ok to say no, but also gets the dialog going on what it would take to become a yes.
As to the should you even have to ask, the answer is yes. Becasue it's something you want, and you cant expect people to read your mind. Most of the time it's not something on my radar, if it isn't reqested it still might not occur to me, even if it's something I know he enjoys and wants regularly. Another thought I had was that while eating her out might seem obvously reciprical corresponding acts, it may not feel that way to the girl. Something totally unrelated may trigger the desire to give BJ.
I will say that there have been a few times I've thoroughly and exceptionally enjoyed giving my H a BJ. However, most of the time I'd prefer to just enjoy H in my mouth, stopping before completion and long before my jaw gets sore. Sometimes I know I can complete the act, most of the time all i'm up for is a little tongue time, and a full BJ isn't something I can do.
