When is kindness enough?

[Fogg]

^how to get to my second thread, which I explained what happened in more detail.

I attempted to move back to my bed but because of how it played out W barricaded the door to the room. I wasn't going to physically break down the door so I was left with couch that night.

I spoke with her the next day and we are now splitting couch/bed during the week. She even apologized for the way she reacted and I explained my position in a confident way. It's not exactly as the advice on here states but you have to look at your situation and make the best call for you. That's what I realized that night. What works for one person on here may not work for everyone. For me I got my needs met/understood and gained some respect from W by standing up to her. I'm happy with the outcome. She at least understands I cant be steam rolled over anytime she wants something specific, also the threats she had before will not have the effect on me she thinks. At the very least the dynamic has changed and I feel more in control of myself.


Edit - I also added a link at the end of the first thread, if all else fails.