What makes you weak in the knees at the thought of your W getting angry/upset?
Shame
And guilt
The WW levels all kinds of criticisms at the LBH to blame them and justify and we believe it all. And what they don't say our badly hurt egos fill in the gaps especially if the LBH is a 'nice guy'
We don't want it to be true and fear it might be so we massively overcompensate.
we've also learnt that when you've done wrong that grovelling apology is the way forward.
Don't rock the boat, be nice and maybe you'll be forgiven and maybe she will give you another chance....
It ignores the reality of a wayward wife but the LBH is desperate they have just had the meaning ripped out of their life, their value destroyed and they believe theyve failed and its their own fault
Guilt and shame.
(Just my opinion though)
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
