Guide for LBH who has a Wayward Wife

[gogofo]

For years, I read romance novels and watched the movies that fed my desire to have that type of man in my life. I was unhappy in my MR and starved for passion, and so my mind went wild reading those novels. This may sound silly to some of you men, but let me tell you, it can set the stage for other things. How can a woman respect and feel the loving, romantic emotions for her H if she's constantly comparing him to a fictional hero? The H will come up short every time, b/c of her mental attitude

I believe some men do the same thing when watching pornography or looking at "hollywood" types on television. They form a vision in their mind of how they want their W to act that is unattainable.

What makes you weak in the knees at the thought of your W getting angry/upset? Be honest and spell it out.

What I feared was that she was just looking for the one reason to leave me again and file for D. I was scared that if I upset her it would be the straw that broke the camel's back.

I am non-confrontational by nature. I don't argue, I think it is counter productive. If I am not emotionally attached to someone I will just let them vent and stare at them blank faced. But with my XW I felt that her mood was directly effected by my actions.

I a nut shell I was scared that if I made her angry and she was in a bad mood then why would she want to be married to me. She wants to be with someone who makes her happy, i.e. the OM.