Hoping, nitaf and Dazed - Thanks I actually do know I must make this life long - funny, the changes feel like te have been there all along - they already feel comfortable to me and I like what I see. Of course, I am not "there" yet, I still need to work on things like patience etc. but I assume these are lifelong journeys. I have come a long way and looking back to see what progress I have made and what I left behind is a good idea. I am planning to sit with my wife and go through our goals again; I at least would like to hear hers so I can re-adjust to meet her expectations. I have asked and she says she is happy and thrilled with all the help etc. She must be because we are closer now than we have been in more years than I can remember
Dazed, I like the tiered goals you describe. This would work better for me instead of individual goals. Unfortunately, I do feel I will need some answers to some nagging insecurities I have (at least I feel that way now, who know a month from now).
My immediate hump is the W is going away this weekend with a girlfriend for a concert and shopping - I need to continue to ask very little (The 52 questions type) and be supportive, she is OK with questions as long as it does not feel like an interrogation (I do not blame her on this). If I shut up long enough she will more than likely tell the entire weekend anyway (I am interested more than anything, not untrusting). I plan to pack them a light lunch with some snacks, drinks and a thermos of special coffee for the drive. I would like to pack something in the overnight bag for her to say I love you but I am not sure what...Maybe just a note or card? Thanks for the advice -
Don't be the person that your spouse can live with -- be the person they cannot live without!!
