In the meantime, I want to ask another question, especially to the men. Awhile back, I asked a similar question on one of the LBH's threads. It drew some really good answers. As a woman, it helped me understand better why they felt some of the fear they experience. With that in mind, I want to narrow it down a little more and ask why do some of the men "fear" their W getting angry? They'll do almost anything to keep her from getting into a bad mood.
In the early days post bomb it was about hope for me. I was worried that if she got angry, she would leave, never to be seen again. I was scared that I might push her over some imaginary line and she would never come back to me. I needed that little bit of hope i was clinging to.
After I found this board, read the books, and started to calm down a bit I found some my lost confidence. Once I found out the extent of her online flirting and multiple EA's I put my foot down and told her she had to leave, that day. And she did. It felt so good to stand up for myself.
Me:43, WW:45 2 Kids: 21,22 Married: 23 Years Bomb: 01/2015 Separate Bedrooms: 02/2015 She left: 03/2015
