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I confirmed my W is having some type of affair. I found an email from OM and a joint calendar they set up online. I then confronted the OM. He claims they are only friends and he is just giving his knowledge since he is recently divorced and how to go about it.

I do not know if for sure if they did anything. I also don't know if he is interested because he has a live in girlfriend. But I am positive my W his heads over heels for him.

I have to admit though since finding this information out things have been so much easier. I have not cried in two days. I went out with friends last night and have plans multiple other nights this week. I call people on the phone.

I confronted W yesterday afternoon after talking to OM. She admitted to going running with him and him helping her organize the D. I don't know or care who is telling the truth or lying. It ended with her saying I can't work on our marriage because I do not love you. Which makes sense you can't love two people.

I have not talked to her since then and actually don't even feel the urge to. I finally took off my wedding ring.

I am know finally 100% DBing. I needed confirmation to close that door. I am not saying I am not willing to work on our R is she comes to me and admits everything and says she is willing to. But at the same time I will be fine if she never does.

There is nothing I did in our marriage that can justify her having an affair. I can live with that now. I still do love her very much and am willing to reconcile even though it is going to take a lot of work. But I am ready to stand on my own two feet if it comes to that.

The friends that I reached out to on Saturday have been great. We talk for hours everyday and go there each night. I for the first time can say I am going to be alright either way.