Walk Away Husband

[sandi2]

Hi NLS, welcome aboard. You will find a wonderful group of people here, all wanting to support you. Thanks for your details b/c it does help give us a picture of how things have been for you.

It took me two years to finally convince him that I needed this surgery.

I also had endometriosis, and suffered several years. My doctor said it was similar to going into labor once a month, there just wasn't a baby to deliver. If this was better explained to our H's, they may at least have a little empathy, but IDK that a wayward man would have empathy for his W if she were on her deathbed.

NLS, your H is more than a WAH, he is wayward. If he has continued this emotional connection with his XGF, there is a possibility that he will refuse to make right choices. He is extremely addicted. An emotional affair is as addicted as a PA. Are you familiar with the PEA? You can research it on the Internet. Basically it explains how what happens to a person's brain and why it works like an addictive drug. He operates out of his emotions, and he won't be logical or rational. He bases everything on his feelings.

I believe Cadet included the link in his welcome post, but if you have not read my thread "For the LBH who has a Wayward Wife", I hope you'll take a look at the first few pages, at least. Although, it is geared for the man who has a WW, it may give you some idea of what you have on your hands.

There are some great ladies here who are in the same boat, and they will probably reach out to you. I hope you will stick with us and post every day possible.

I came here from the other side of the fence, as they say, and this board helped me in my darkest period. My M survived, and although I was the wayward spouse, they helped by telling me what I needed to do. Anyway, I stuck around in case I can do the same for someone else. I have learned a lot in reading these posts the last eight years. Sadly, the stories do not differ very much. I think you may see, as you read the threads, how similar they sound.

I wish you the very best, and I want to tell you that you do not have to settle for a bad M. You are worth having a man who will truly care for you and treat you like you deserve. I hope you will focus on yourself and get your esteem back on a healthy level.