Right now for some more composed thoughts and I'm going for what I do best.. Lists
1) the man is a fool
2) don't beat yourself up, sure there was some pursuit which impressively included actual pursuit but it was tough and you wanted to give him a hug. So I'm going with no 2x4s required.
3) don't put pressure on yourself for a new plan just yet, give yourself some space to just process (unbelievably hypocritical of me I know)
4) he's still not prepared to own his bit and until he is you would be taking it all on and that may not help you in the long term.
5) the man is a fool (its worth repeating). He may be intelligent and all sorts of other qualities but in this he is a fool. Best Mr T voices now please...
6) look at all the good stuff in your life, now admittedly it peaked a couple if weeks ago when you were in the UK but there a flights. There's lots going on that's good so enjoy it.
7) you've coped with a lot worse than getting some paperwork, that's all it is really so you will cope, and you'll learn and your life will keep on getting better. Definitely not the end.
8) there are lots of people who care about you IRL and here in our strange virtual anonymous world. Know that and take comfort in it
9) did I mention he's a fool
And if none of that helps then I'll go back to my first reaction
(((Ganb8te)))
Last edited by jim0987; 03/31/1507:19 PM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
