I wanted to swing back here and clarify a bit more about what I meant by "coming down HARD on WAW" as we don't want LBHs to misunderstand these comments.
Coming down HARD on the WAW doesn't mean that one has to be a jerk nor take a scorched Earth approach to DBing. In fact, it's to the contrary with calmness, firmness, and clear-headed confidence.
What it means by coming down hard on the WAW actively involved in an affair with the OM is doing the following as soon as you arrive here in DB:
1-pull out the no-OM boundary speech 2-quit all pursuing, letters, flowers, gifts, sex, sharing the MBR
This shows WAW that cake-eating is not an optional extracurricular activity with your blessing (i.e. wet noodle appeasement).
Coming down HARD on WAW is communicating clearly to her in no uncertain terms that you are NOT okay with living in an open M and backing it up with James Bond-cool ACTIONS.
No more wet noodle chit like pursuing her, pleading her, showing her how unhappy you are, bending backwards to accommodate her shifty changes, etc.
We've seen FAR toooooo many LBHs fritter away valuable time and energy on supplicating to the WAW with needy and clingy behaviors/actions. And some wet noodle, cringe-inducing comments along with those behaviors.
