I think the DB approach for LBWs should differ slightly from the LBHs. Because the female and male dynamic is quite different.
Case in point.
For WAWs, the connection to the OM is emotional.
For WAHs, the connection is visual and sexual.
For DBing to be successful, the LBH needs to come down HARD on the WAW because the emotional allure is like a powerful riptide tearing her and the M asunder.
For DBing to be successful, the LBW needs to re-attract her WAH for men really like the chase and are visually-oriented.
Questions from Mahhty:
Sandi & Wonka. I've done my best to employ LRT and the 37 Rules. I've done well in some areas and less in others. That is the price of learning and changing. Regardless, I am moving forward.
The above addresses a WAW with OM. What about a WAW without OM? How does the thinking change if at all? In the rare instances where there's no OM, the approach is different...obviously. One does not need to pull out the no-OM boundary speech nor take any proactive measures to cease funding the affair--especially paying for the smartphone.
In cases where there's no OW or OM, the game plan is this: GAL, do genuine 180s on some of the legitimate complaints from your WAS, use your ears MORE & validate when appropriate, and re-attract your WAS. It's as simple as that. You ask how? Be upbeat, light, breezy, and fun. No more Eyeore chit. Being confident and breezy is very, very attractive.
Also, I don't fully understand the connection of the idea that "...the LBH needs to come down HARD on the WAW..." and the LRT/37 rules. How are we to "come down hard" when we don't have much contact? In your case, there's no OM. Are you absolutely sure about that??! Most LBHs are VERY, VERY fearful and delay in taking the first and most important step: pulling out the no-OM boundary speech. They drag out reasoning that it will just "push W away" which is whack because the W is already emotionally checked out of the M. Our main point is get your balls back and stand firm on the no-OM boundary.
If this is covered in the other posts let me know.
