If you feel that ONLY you are a good parent then why haven't you gone to court to get 100% custody on the basis your wife is neglecting the kids?
Ok this is going to be harsh but I am just pointing things out for your benefit.....
You REALLY don't want to change/see your own flaws, do you? I can tell you one thing, if you treated/viewed ME like you do your wife I would run the other way so fast it would make your head spin.
I believe you said a few times you spoil the kids with 100% attention.... Guess what, as a stressed out mom with 1,000+ things on my mind my H giving the kids all the attention and then the kids coming back demanding the same treatment from me when I had cooking/cleaning/whatever to do would make me want to explode!
Here in the US there is a term called "Disney Dad". It's used to refer to divorced dad's who get to do fun stuff with the kids while mom has the responsibility and then feels guilty......
Ok, more on this later. I have to go to "work"...
Let's just put it this way, I see your point but I understand your feelings aren't going to do anything but cause harm to the marriage.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction