Its really hard to see progress in our situations because we are on the roller coaster distracted by the emotional excitement, the ups and downs, etc. However, when the roller coaster slows down we realize we are miles away from where we started.
I think you have made great progress.
I also think that in those times when you feel down and/or obsessed with his phone, you need to start thinking about how to effectively communicate what you want from the relationship to him. It seems that you need to understand if he wants to move into the future holding your hand or walking next to you, as opposed to walking behind. I believe that may be a 180 for you and him.
Again, I will follow that up with that you have made progress! And you should be honest with yourself about that progress, and it's positive impact.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015